Rumination, Righteous Anger, and The Illusion of Control
When something hurts, the mind often turns it over again and again, as if more thinking could change what happened. That is rumination: an endless loop disguised as problem solving. It can feel clarifying. It rarely is. Most of the time, it is a way to stay busy when we do not know how to feel what we feel.
Anger can do something similar. When it does not move through, it hardens into moral outrage or cold certainty. We replay the same story, collecting evidence, proving our point, trying to feel powerful instead of exposed. Rumination and righteous anger both create the same illusion: if we can think it through, we can control the pain.
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